Friday, September 26, 2008
I am so sad - I logged onto the computer to check email and found one from my former boss and long time friend informing me that a young man who had come very close to marrying her daughter, committed suicide last night. He was a charming, sweet, appealing kind of guy who had bailed us out with his wonderful talent and training in computer technology when the crazy (like a fox) girl quit after primary elections so she could be eventually "placed" into position of County Clerk.
He was a strong pillar for us when the political climate turned parties and plots were underway to make us disappear without having any consequences arise.
He couldn't have been too much older than my son when he passed away. I think of so many other young men who have died too soon and left big gaps in the world and our hearts. I don't understand. But....
Things I have learned:
Love will not save a person.
No matter what you do, some will be lost.
If they "screw up," let them know that they will do better next time and you are still there. (Some things transcend this one, be wise!).
Cherish the time you spend with someone who clicks with you.
Be kind, always be kind even when you have to tell them the truth.
Realize that things happen in other people's lives that we can maybe never know about or maybe never understand, things that leave dark stains upon their hearts from which they, for one reason or another, can not recover and no matter how good they are, they go.
Do not beat yourself up when that person dies, because it won't do a bit of good, and the person that has died would be very upset with you if you do. Instead, honor the person's life, the good that came from that person and the beautiful part of the impact they had on life.
Never take anyone for granted.
Tell them if you think they are great. And tell them, "Hey, you've made my life better for knowing you."
Realize that at any time you can lose the person who is standing next to you this moment.
Take care friends of yourself and each other.
Posted by Gardenia at 2:54 PM